"Pressure"
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Since I began shaving with a single-blade razor, I've learned the three secrets to shaving: angle, pressure, and patience. And we're applying these concepts to addressing sin in our brother's life (Matt. 7:3-5). So far, we've covered the angle we take in correction, coming from a place of humility and friendship.
Now let's talk about removing the "stubble" of sin in our brother's life, continuing with the kind of pressure we apply.
Pressure in Shaving
With a cheap multi-blade razor, you usually have to push very hard to remove hair. Applying the same amount of pressure with a quality single-blade razor will result in injury. Typically, the weight of the blade itself is enough to remove hair without damage. However, not enough pressure will not get you the results for which you're looking. But what kind of pressure do we apply when correcting a brother?
Spirit of Gentleness
"Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted" (Gal. 6:1).
Dealing with sin in our brother's lives is a delicate operation, one that we need to approach with gentleness. Being compassionate and gentle when we offer criticism is what we would want if someone were coming to correct us. So, do we treat our brothers gently when we offer correction? Or do we push them to the breaking point?
With Wisdom
"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector" (Matt. 18:15-17).
The amount of pressure we put on a brother is dependent on the situation, but we need to be praying for wisdom to know how to respond. Gaining a brother back is the ultimate goal, and that should be in our mind the entire time! So, do we use wisdom to know the right approach? Or do we escalate the situation too early?
It's not easy, convenient, or fun to sit down and tell someone they're in sin. But we need to find the courage and love for their souls to step in and help! And when we apply the correct amount of pressure — considering the situation — we'll hopefully be met with receptive ears to our correction.
